Remembering the memories...

There are things still in the back of my mind that cause me to feel sad, shame, guilt, angry and confused. Thoughts creep into my head, not everyday, but somedays and when they do I display misplaced anger. It may be towards who or whatever caused me to remember or towards myself. I'll yell at someone, or binge smoke or drink too much or something because I am feeling something horrible about something that happened so long ago I barely remember, but the feelings remain in tact.

Someone very close to me needs a boost of love about this very topic...healing. My close friend needs to remember the memories that are controlling his life and still causing hurt deeply. My friends hurt comes from the death of a loved one and the reasons behind the death. It's been a very hard road and still the road is rough. Although my friend seems fine most days, there are other days when the painful memories of his loved ones death come to the surface and the reaction is profound...I hurt just watching and listening.

What I want my very dear friend to know is that everything we experience in our lives deserves to be honored and embraced. We may never have perfect peace with the hurt we feel, but we can at least share it in a positive way and get thru the rough times by talking about it and remembering the good memories.