Love Shouldn't Hurt
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Are you being abused?
I am taking on a subject that is close to me. In the past I was a victim, but now I am a conqueror over any abuse against me. I am beginning a series of articles taking on the topic of domestic violence and focusing on teen dating, because that is where my abuse began.
I am a grown woman now and mother of two young adults in their twenty's and I feel good about sharing with the younger generation my personal experience, strength and hope so that they may arm themselves with knowledge to avoid the pitfalls of abuse in their young lives. It's my mission, my personal feelings and no one has to read these articles, but I'll do them anyway as I am being lead by a power greater than myself to help another.
Abuse can be verbal, emotional, physical or sexual. An abuser is someone that does the following:
- is possessive, does not want you to go anywhere without them
- is controlling, of your activities, your appearance, of who your friends are
- blames others, criticizes, tries to humiliate or manipulate you
- gets violent or loses temper quickly
- demands or forces you to have sex
- keeps partner from seeing friends or family
- makes all the decisions
- causes pain or fear
- threatens to break up with you if you don't do what they want
- is a bully who threatens to hurt you or someone in your family, and uses put downs
- uses technology to harass and control
- always apologizes after the abusive behavior
If you've experienced any of these warning signs, you or someone you know may be a victim of abuse. Trust me when I say you are not alone, and you need to tell someone that can help you. It can be a parent, counselor, trusted adult, teacher, minister, coach, doctor or me.
For more information and help please contact the NATIONAL TEEN DATING ABUSE HELPLINE AT 866-331-9474 or www.loveisprespect.org
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Thank you "ripples" for the comment. I appreciate it and also for wishing me well with this important work. I'm paying it forward because someone helped me when I couldn't help myself. Thanks again and I hope you continue to read my articles.
Cherylej, That was so true. The only thing we can do is tell our story and hope that other women and young girls listen. People are so quick to judge when they are on the outside looking in but, we are the ones on the inside that had to endure it all. It is a sad story and if we don't tell it no one else will. No one can come close to knowing what it feel like unless they have walked that mile in our shoes. We can only tell our story the way that we saw it, not the way that others want us to. I pray that in a short period of time this thing called abuse will be brought to a screaching hault.
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ripples 18 months ago
This is a helpful hub. Nice one. All the best with your work.